I’m glad I got to write two ultra-happy posts in a row, because since then things have begun to deteriorate.
The past week has been a rough one filled with many many embarrassingly frantic bathroom runs (shout-outs to the Starbucks on 96th Street, the tennis court bathrooms in Central Park, the tennis court bathrooms in Central Park twice more, the church on 90th and 5th, and Excel Hair Salon on Third Avenue!), many many tears (including some especially hysterical, can’t-breathe ones at Engineers’ Gate after a particularly frustrating run attempt, and some more in the pouring rain outside the tennis court bathrooms partway through a second failed run try), and the maddening return of that 102-degree fever and night sweats.
Oh, and the other day, during one of my many early-morning bathroom trips, I got stuck in the bathroom. The maintenance company was thrilled with me.
It could have been worse: I could have been locked out of the bathroom.
I went to the doctor yesterday for my weekly iron and albumin infusions and when the P.A. came in, she simply said, “I don’t need to ask you how you feel — I know from looking at your bloodwork how you feel.”
My hemoglobin is back in that “dangerously low” area and my albumin levels aren’t coming up either.
I’m still taking the Humira weekly, but only until I can transition to the next drug my doctor wants me on, which is Stelara and which, naturally, my insurance company refuses to approve. (If I’ve learned anything throughout this ordeal, it’s that your doctor may make the best decisions for how to treat your disease, but ultimately the insurance company is the one calling the shots. Bullshit? I think so.)
Stelara, an injection you receive a few times a month, comes at the very reasonable cost of just $15,000 a pop without insurance coverage.
Although the doctor assured me yesterday that they’re in the process of appealing to the insurance company for a third time “using nasty words,” the doctor was very honest about the fact that I’m unlikely to get this drug. Hooray for healthcare!
In the meantime, I’ll be going into the doctor’s office twice a week for iron and albumin and I’m starting on a steroid, Uceris, that specifically targets the colon and should “help with the pain, cramping and urgency.” I’ll believe it when I see it.
It’s really, really difficult to be positive right now. I had a two-week run where I thought I was getting better and I finally felt so optimistic, and then last night was the worst night I’ve had in a month.
I haven’t been able to run, I’ve only been back to work one day (yesterday) for a few hours, and I’m so tired of my body fighting me.
And I’ve gotta be honest, it kills me sitting in my apartment while everyone complains about running in this heat.
Oh I’m sorry the conditions aren’t perfect for your run! But were you able to run? Could you leave your apartment? Did you manage not to um, use your shorts as a bathroom?
Then stop complaining.
You’re physically able to run.
Sorry the weather is making you a little extra sweaty.
Speaking of sweaty.
I’ve always claimed I can be perked up at least temporarily by making someone else happy.
So today seems like a good day for a giveaway, don’t you think?
I’ve got a few I Heart Sweat shirts up for grabs!
Entering, as always, is going to be wicked easy.
Just leave a comment on this post telling me the most important lesson you’ve learned in your life.
A few examples, in case you are confused or need some guidance and inspiration:
- I learned the difference between you’re and your!
- I learned the difference between there, their and they’re!
- I learned that I can’t eat corn and should avoid it at all costs!
- I learned that credit cards are not “fake money.”
- I learned that 75% of people will, at some point in their lives, get hemorrhoids. Ask around. You’ll see.
- I learned that no one, no matter how old you are, takes care of you like your mom. No grilled cheese sandwiches will ever compare to hers.
- I learned that the people who love you will love you no matter what. This means you can have a grotesquely embarrassing digestive disease and they will stick around. Lucky you!
- I learned that your health is the most important thing you have.
I’ll pick however many winners I want, because I make the rules, on Thursday, July 11, at 9 AM EST.
Good luck, and please remember…
You don’t have to run. You don’t have to train for a fall marathon. You don’t have to get out the door for a tempo run at 5 AM.
You get to do all those things.
I’ll preach all I want. Don’t take your health for granted. Appreciate every single thing you can do every day.
Happy sweating and good luck!
Thinking of you girl. I hope you’re feeling better! xo
I’ve learned that you can never eat too many Oreos.
To always be thankful…especially for my health and family and friends who are still with me.
I learned that you do not have to be perfect all the time and that the number on the scale should not dictate how happy you are!!
I’ve learned that you can do anything you want to do if you work hard at it. The person that graduates last in his class in medical school is still called doctor.
I learned the true meaning of “love” after I had my 3 kids…..P.S. As an English teacher, my dream would be for everyone to learn the difference of “your” and “you’re”…
I’ve learned that patience is a virtue. Hard work and dedication along with patience will award one in multiple ways.
I have learned to always take the high road no matter how much i don’t want to. Sending you good thoughts Ali.
Hello. I’m a 13 year old runner who’s been a runner for a year now, and has followed your blog for 3 years . You have always been a huge inspiration to me, Ali. And I’m soooo sorry for you. I’ve been praying for you… But nothing last forever, right? I know you will get better soon. Here are a few life lessons that I thought up to make you laugh:
1. Screw anyone who believes a thigh gap is humanly possible.
2. You can never have too much ice cream.
3. Never just wear a hoodie and a bra, because next thing you know, you’re hoodie accidently unzipped itself WAY too low, and you don’t realize it until 10 minutes later.
4. If you want to spend one day on a diet without cheating (I’ve never accomplished), then do not take a spoonful of ice cream, cuz next thing you know, you just ate 1/4 of the tub.
5. One does not simply play minecraft for 30 minutes.
6. When you say you’re going to make a small list of life lessons, and you realize you’re on number 6 already.
I hope those at least made you smile, Ali. And by the way, just letting you know, if me having a valid email address is required for the giveaway, sorry, the email I entered isn’t really valid, because my mom lost the password a year ago xD But anyway… I hope you feel better, and get back to running soon! …Yeah. And by the way, here’s a puppy: http://cdn.cutestpaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/Two-Litte-Dog-l.jpg
I have learned (and I am trying to teach my daughter) that if you don’t want somebody to read something you wrote, don’t write it down in the first place! : )
best lesson – its okay to feel how you feel. sending you lots of love.
I’ve learned that I am lucky and that I should never forget that…
Right now the only lesson I can think of is, in the wise words of Finding Nemo, “just keep swimming.” I’ve been reciting it to myself a lot lately as I try to prepare for the bar exam.
I’ve learned that running isn’t the only way to stay healthy. Since I’ve been dealing with some bad shin pain/ tendonitis for the past 6 months, I’ve finally settled into super duper low mileage and have since took up bike riding.
I’ve learned (being 45) that there is definitely no better person to take care of you than mom. I had foot surgery in February and am still in recovery and am unable to do the things that I enjoy, like walking around the block, hiking or just standing in the kitchen to cook. Although my mom is 2,000 miles away just talking to her everyday makes things better. I am happy to pass this motherly affection and love to my own 3 boys (ages 20, 18 & 15). It is wonderful to sit on the couch and your 15 year old son comes home from a tough day of skateboarding (bruised and sometimes bloody) and he sits next to you on the couch, puts his head on your shoulder and says “I love you mom” right in front of his teenage friends.
I’ve learned that your parents know more than you think.
I have learned that making sure I take time to exercise isn’t “selfish” it is necessary and beneficial to me and to my family.
I’ve learned to pay attention to directions because I think I’ve waited too late to win a shirt…:(
I’ve learned to not enter giveaways, and yet I still do (and end sentences with prepositions)
🙁 sorry to hear of the many down days, seriously, I don’t know you from Adam, but, dang! horrible.
I’ve learned that my body and health are #1 and I need to treat it that way.
I’ve learned how lucky I am in most of my life. I am fairly healthy, I have parents whom I enjoy still at age 35, I have a loving partner, a nice flat, a job I call my hobby and friends who seem to put up with me year after year. And I’ve learned that there will be a solution to everything in the end. Very seldom what I was expecting, but it usually solves one way or another.
This is the first time I read your blog, I’m a beginner as runner, but I will sweat for you too. Hope you get better real soon!
I’ve learned that running is the best therapy for me and it’s also only type of exercise I’ve ever been able to commit to long-term. (Maybe because it’s so therapeutic.) I’m lucky I’m able to run. Thanks for the reminder. Hoping you feel better again soon.
I have learned that finding my keys and putting them in my purse the night before will save me from a frantic breakdown the next morning!!!! Damn keys.
One of the most important lessons that I’ve learned is that even if you come from a lousy childhood that as an adult you can make your present great. I spent a long time being miserable for what I should have had and then I realized that I had the power to change my present and my future. I now have the family I’ve chosen through my husband and child and my present and future are looking pretty great.
PS – There’s no way on earth I’m winning that shirt but damn, I want one!
Hugs to you Ali!
I’ve learned that the squishy faces of my two pugs can make me smile…..no matter what. And I love them for that!
I’ve learned that I can’t control how others see me or what they think of me. I can be as nice as possible to someone and they can still have something bad to say about me and there is nothing I can do about that. I can’t let negative comments from others bring me down. All I can do is be the best person I can be and let others think what they want about me.
I learned that doctors can be wrong, when at 13 they told me I’d always walk with a limp and never run. I learned then no one can ever really say the right thing when things are REALLY wrong but that the love they try to send your way is enough some times.
Both things said Ali, I hope that you have better days ahead and that you know good thoughts are being sent your way by many!
I’ve learned that food always tastes better when someone else feeds it to you.
Feel better soon, Ali. xoxoxo
I learned that health is more important than work, even if you love your job.
I’ve learned that there are some people in your life that are NEVER going to be happy, no matter what, so do what’s right, and stop caring what they think.
AND, I am so incredibly sad to hear about all you are going through – every bad day must seem like FOREEEVVVVEERRRR. Wishing you some great days ahead, kiddo. You are due.
I have learned that you are never too old to out grow loving The Real World!
I’ve learned that getting up at 445am to run justifies an 8am nap.
I’ve learned to not let Crohn’s disease define who I am. I’m more than just a chronic inflammatory condition of the gastrointestinal tract. It took me much, much longer than it should have to realize that; however, it’s a very hard lesson to learn when it feels like your formerly healthy body is constantly betraying you. Yes, there are still many bad days but now, I really try my hardest not beat myself up over this medical condition that I truly have no control over.
Most important life lesson:
You can never take back the things you said while hangry, always carry a protein bar.
On a more serious note, though it’s hard to stay positive, that determined attitude is certain to help in your healing. Praying that you will be back to your old self soon!
I’ve learned as a parent to be that “one voice” of love and wisdom for my child. Having struggled with body/self image I want my child to know they are great even if the world tells them otherwise.
I’ve learned to never run in the humid Nebraska heat at noon in the summertime! Hope you get feeling better Ali, you’re such an inspiration and I’ve dedicated many runs, short and long, to you!
Ali, I’m so sorry to hear things have gotten worse. And the health care stuff – GAH. I’ve been there too – I’m on Remicade and my insurance decided not to pay for it for a little bit, which as you know is kind of a big deal. It all worked out for me in the end and I really really hope it does for you too — but I completely understand that feeling of desperation and insanity when you realize that someone at a computer is denying you your health because you don’t fit in their spreadsheet. The word “deductible” is almost a trigger word for me.
On another note, I learned that this dog (http://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/1cujh1/our_dog_is_really_good_at_balancing_things_on_his/) exists and I consider that a very important lesson.
I’d just started a blog and thought, “Great! Now I can comment on ‘Ali on the Run’ and others!” I’m so very sorry things are going badly. Sending hugs your way.
The most important lesson I’ve learned is two-fold: First, most related to this post, is that everything does end eventually. I’ve had to stop myself in times of panic or fear and think, “Do you see this continuing 5 years from now?” Usually the answer is no. I surely hope the answer to your ordeal will be no. And in happier times, remembering everything ends puts things in a perspective of better appreciating them.
Second: No one is perfect, not even oneself. Sympathy and empathy are the best tools, and you can’t be too hard on others — or yourself. It’s always tricky, but it gives me more peace of mind to let annoyances and friends or strangers or myself go.
Third (because I’ve lied — there are three now): Is to stop rambling so much. So I’ll end this here and send more thoughts of hugs and well-wishes your way.
I learned that sometimes, it’s okay not to have a plan for every detail of every event for years to come.
You WILL get better physically, as there is nothing wrong with you mentally. Your positive attitude and determined personality will get you thru this hurdle.
By the way – the kick-ass reality checks for all of those complainers out there are awesome!
I’ve learned that life is short and unpredictable – and we should choose to spend it doing and living and not complaining and regretting!
To be myself – it doesn’t matter what other people think of you, as long as you respect and matter to yourself.
I learned that I should not try to do it all.
I probably have to re-learn this lesson
I’ve learned that everything happens for a reason. I have no idea why this would be happening to you for so long, but this was the lesson I learned the hard way.
I am a teacher and was having one of the hardest years of my (short) career. I was coming home crying every day, telling my boyfriend I couldn’t make it through the year. I lost my appetite, dropped quite a few pounds, and was completely depressed. However, after sticking it out for the entire school year, I found out I was the one who kept another teacher afloat the entire year, while she was very silently going through the same thing. She told me at the end of the year that she would have never made it through without me.
Sometimes it’s hard to see at the time, but I’ve come to find out time and time again that everything does happen for a reason.
Hope you start to get and feel better soon <3
I’ve learned that if you don’t take chances in life you will never know if that hot guy that works in the office downstairs is single or not. He isn’t 🙁 But at least I took a chance.
I’ve also learned that it is ok to eat ice cream every day.
Most valuable life lesson thus far has been to surrender control/”plans”/”time”/etc when life gets “excitingly busy” and instead enjoy every unexpected turn or interruption.
I’ve learned to not “sweat the small stuff” and to “pick your battles”. This applies to parenting, marriage and everyday life.
Sorry you are still feeling bad. Darn those insurance companies for not letting you get the treatment you need 🙁
I’ve learned to control only the things I can control and stop worrying about everything I can’t. Remembering this whenever I start stressing is easier said than done. =)
I’ve learned that even though something may not look exactly as you imagined or expected, it doesn’t make it wrong. Keep an open mind and it could turn out to be something amazingly good!
I’ve learned that just because I feel guilty, it doesn’t mean that I’ve done something wrong, especially when I’m taking care of myself.
Sending healing light your way. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I’ve learned that cheese makes everything better. MOAR CHEESE!!!
Hope you’re feeling better. Also, I think someone may have already said it, but I’m far too impatient to go through all the comments, but I wanted to reiterate seeking help from charitable organizations in your area. I work with a lot of not-for-profits in my line of work, and while most of them cater to cancer patients, these charitable organizations have funds (and lots of them) set aside to help pay for medication/other needs for patients who can’t afford it.
I’ve learned that life is hard and it sucks sometimes. People that you love can be in your life one second and ripped out the next in the blink of an eye. I have been to 8 funerals in the past 3 years and I’m done. My Dad’s was the hardest, but going to a funeral for a 10 month old was horrifying as well.
I have learned that wax paper and parchment paper are not the same thing and if you try to make cookies on the former, your smoke detector will go off and your (uh so good smelling) chocolate chip peanut butter cookies will be covered with wax. However, I also learned they are still edible 🙂
I’ve learned that the art of “courtesy flushing” is priceless for those urgent moments in public bathrooms that offer ZERO privacy!
On the flip side, I’ve also learned how awesome it is to walk into a 10 stall women’s bathroom and have no one in there.
Can I get an “Amen!”?
(You totally have me laughing/giggling now)
Latest lesson: Spend a little more money on the hotel. The bedbug purge after a trip is not worth it.
I’ve learned that I always feel better if I start by day with a workout– cause then even if nothing else goes right, at least I got a workout in.
So sorry you haven’t been feeling well! I wear my I heart Sweat shirt often (get tons of compliments) and think of you!!
I’ve learned to appreciate what my body can do, instead of dwelling on what it can’t.
I have learned that wax paper and parchment paper are not the same thing and if you try to make cookies on the former, your smoke detector will go off and your peanut butter cookies will be covered with wax. However, I also learned they are still edible 🙂
I’ve learned that the only way to accomplish a goal is to do the work! Miles don’t run themselves 🙂
I truly hope you feel better soon, Ali
I’ve learned that you should ALWAYS have fun without worrying about what other people are thinking. The best family and friends won’t judge you but will join you.
Ali, I’m sure you or your doctors thought of this already..but it is worth contacting the drug company and seeing what they can help with. There also might be foundations a care coordinator could set you up with. There are probably some sort of options, so don’t give up!
I’ve learned that I need to appreciate all the moments, not just the big ones and to pay more attention. Life goes by fast. Living in the moment makes me happy.
I’ve learned that my friends and family are the most important things in my life.
Ali, I am so sorry you are still not feeling well! I have learned through your stories, and those of others, that every run truly is a gift… even in the heat and humidity. Sometimes we don’t remember that, but it is definitley true!
I’m learning right now that I can’t always be a people pleaser. I need to learn how to say “no” sometimes in order to take care of myself. And I also have learned I would rather be happy and enjoy life than be rich and work all.the.time.
Being myself is better than being someone that I don’t like. And it’s okay to be quiet! Someone has to listen to everyone else talk!
I’ve learned that you’re my favorite (and how to use your/you’re)! Even though we’ve never met I find myself thinking of you and hoping you’re getting better!
It sounds so cliche, but Crohn’s has really taught me that the petty things in life really don’t matter – I’ve become a more compassionate and understanding person because of it, and I always, always try to appreciate every healthy and happy moment of my life.
Stay in the moment! Good or bad, whatever I’m feeling isn’t going to last forever. Simply acknowledging that fact can help take away some of the power of difficult emotions.
“When in trouble or in doubt, run in circles, scream and shout”….. Advice given to me by a dear departed friend who had infinite words of silly wisdom. I now think of that advice every time I’m in a predicament 🙂
I’ve learned that going through a jar of peanut butter a week is perfectly normal if you want to live a long and happy life.
I’ve learned that there are very few amazing things in life that a person can achieve alone–let others in! Sending you good vibes and hopes for some relief!
I’ve learned that your gut is the best indicator of how you feel about something, beyond all arguments and rationales. Follow it.
I didn’t grow up with a dog, so living with a roommate who has a dog has taught me there are few problems puppy snuggles can’t cure.
I’ve learned that we don’t have useless experiences. We may not be able to see it at the time, but there’s a reason for everything we have to go through.
I have learned not to take things for granted (like running, which I can’t do anymore) and to always keep things in perspective.
I learned that health is more important that a marathon PR.
I have learned that if you want to make a change in your life, whatever it may be, it must be your own decision and your own will power, regardless of what anyone else says the ultimate decider is YOU.
I have learned that only I am responsible for my own destiny- that there are things I can control and things I can’t control (including people who may or may not like me)…. what I can control (most of the time) is my attitude. I may not choose to be happy all of the time, but my life is blessed even through the difficult times. I’ve learned to fake a smile until a real one comes along. 🙂
Thank you for sharing your life with us- all of it. It is a blessing to me.
HOLY COMMENTS, BATMAN!
I’ve learned a lot this year having made the leap from student to working full time at a real big girl job. Most importantly I have learned to have confidence in myself, because I can do anything I put my mind to (applies both to my personal life and work). Similar to your example, I’ve also learned that I cannot be trusted with a credit card and that I have a serious shopping problem. Finally, I learned that I still have a lot to learn 🙂
You’ve taught me a lot too. I’ve learned not to sweat the small stuff and be thankful that I have relatively good health as well as to get out there and be active because I can. Thanks for being a good teacher 😉
Thinking about you and hoping you make some improvements soon.
I learned that we should always look for the silver-lining in scenarios
Hope you’re feeling better soon!
I’ve learned that EVERYONE is carrying around some sort of baggage, some just carry it differently. We all have issues, it’s teh choices we make on how to deal with them that sets us apart.
Hoping you feel better, that your insurance company gets off their collective asses and pays for the meds you need to do so, and you are happily sweating and running soon!
Until then, we’ve got this!
I’ve learned that worrying about the future all the time takes away from all the happiness you can experience in the present.
I’ve learned you should do what you love, and if you aren’t- change what you’re doing!
I’ve learned that if I chop garlic with wet hands and a wet knife, the little pieces of garlic won’t stick to my hands or the knife.
I’ve learned that talking/joking about poop really isn’t that embarrassing – specially when you have a great family and group of friends who are willing to joke with you. Definitely helps to get through a shitty day! (going on 8 years with colitis – I feel your pain girl!) Feel better soon!
I have learned, first from your example and then by doing it myself, that running for a cause (aka Team Challenge!!) is the most amazing thing. I’ve made some fantastic friends and can’t help feel like a bada$$ (instead of just having a bada$$) when I cross the finish line after having raised money to find a cure for this stupidly horrible disease. I am sending you puppy kisses and lots of hugs that you’re feeling better soon. xo
I’ve learned that laughing at yourself takes away most of the embarrassment, which is good for me because I do a lot of stupid stuff.
I have learned that no matter how well trained we think our pets are, the cats WILL sit on the counters when they think we aren’t looking.
I have learned the hard way to listen to my body when it is telling me to rest or stop. I’ve been out since April with hamstring tendinitis….I don’t fully feel your pain, girl, but I wish I could be waking up at 5am for tempo runs, as well. Or a bike ride, or yoga….or something…I hope your doctor is able to get the PA with your insurance!!
I’ve learned that if you have a choice between being right and being kind, always choose kind.
I’ve learned that money really does dictate everything, even if making a ton of it is not your goal. .
I’ve learned you can’t plan your life too much. God laughs at your plans. I’m currently working on accepting this since Crohn’s was not part of my plans for 2013, but its showed up anyways….I’ll be seeing my MD today so we’ll see what happens. Anyways I hope you are able to get the Stelara and start feeling better!!!!
I’ve learned to stay away from that “last drink” of the night b/c it seems to be the one that gets you every time as in “I shouldn’t have had that last drink!” Ok, so sometimes I have it anyway…
This is my first visit to your site. I popped over from the Valentine RD. My name is also Allie but I spell it that way…I’m also a runner and I NEVER take it for granted. I’m sorry to read you’re so sick! Being a runner will make you stronger and help you get through this…or it will help you battle those a-hole insurance companies a little longer!
I learned not to Google symptoms of an ailment, use web MD, or research what to expect during a colonoscopy prep because I just end up panicking about diseases I don’t have and things that likely won’t happen to me.
I’ve learned that even though life doesn’t go the way I had imagined, it doesn’t have to mean that it’s worse than I had planned.
This is too fun to pass up, but if this entry magically gets chosen as a “winner”, choose again. I live in Singapore, and there ain’t no way I’m letting you mail a shirt out here. It will, seriously, cost you an arm or a leg, and you don’t really have either to spare at the moment.
I’ve learned…that when you bust an ankle, hopping around on the OTHER foot while the busted ankle is casted…is a sure way to end up with a stress fracture in your GOOD foot.
I’ve learned…that the aforementioned shenanigans will lead to some hilarious (or not) conversations with your insurance company, “Yes, that X-ray was for my LEFT foot. But now I need one for the RIGHT foot. No, it’s not funny. Please stop laughing.”
But mostly, I’ve learned…that life never really goes where we think/plan it will. Sometimes, this sucks. But other times? The results are crazy awesome things that I’d never expected!
I am doing a 200 mile bike ride this weekend. I admit, I signed up to spite my husband who was spending too much $ and time on his fishing hobby. So I decided to sink a little cash of my own into a bike and plenty of cycling gear. However, my husband got very sick in February. Like scary almost died and now he’s had two chemo treatments and over 50 plasma exchanges and lives with a clacival IV dangling from his chest. My poor guy hasn’t been fishing once this season, but he’s fully cheered me and supported me in every training ride. So you could say I’ve learned a few things. Mostly that i love my husband more now than the day we got married, 10 years ago this Friday!!
My grandmother taught me that Haste Makes Waste–and boy, was she right!
My mom will always be there for me no matter how many times i mess up. No, in fact, my family.
I learned I can’t eat Brie 🙁
Thanks Ali for reminding me that I “get” to run… I feel your pain and even though I’m dreading tomorrows “long” 11 mile run I know how lucky I am. The best thing I have learned is that your body is a sacred vessel and we need to take care of it as best possible. Wish I had figured that one out before I hit my 50’s ;o) Sending West Coast Hugs your way.
I’ve learned that for every person better off than you, there is someone else who has it worse. Life isn’t fair.
I have learned it is important to trust your gut, even if it goes against what others are telling you to do.
Even when I’ve reached all reasonable limits, I often times think that pushing myself just that little bit farther or trying one more way of doing something will help me achieve my goals, almost to the point of insanity.
My dad taught me to remember that sometimes our instinctual solutions aren’t always protecting us. When the ice cracks under your feet, your instinct is to run but you should lay down. When a plane goes into a nose dive, our instinct would would be to quickly redirect upwards, but in reality, you should do the opposite. When a car hydroplanes or slides on ice, don’t slam on the breaks, pump them. Sometimes when you think adding just one more thing will fix a problem, the best solution is to give yourself a break and do less, not more.
It’s super cheesy, but I have had a few events recently that have reminded me of how true this is. Your health and your family are paramount to your happiness. And on a different note, I’ve learned that planning for everything isn’t possible. Life happens!
I love you and your wit and wisdom. I don’t have much of either but I have learned that if I ever do think I deserve a saddle run on the high horse and start a sentence with “I will never do _____” it pretty much seals my fate that I will do whatever is in that blank. I recently saw a mother in the store give her 18 month old a Rockstar. I hit the brakes on my judgey brain quick because you know sister had a bad day and I know my babies don’t need all day energy.
I’ve learned that the people who want to be in your life will never let you go
I have learned that I need to have a separte savings account for all my medical bills because I am an unfortunate crohnie. I have also learned that insurance companies, specialty pharmacies, hospitals and hospital billing departments will almost always never communicate with each other and it makes me mad. I have also learned that even though I have had to call a 1800 number for the fourteenth time, I cannot get mad at that poor person on the phone. And while my friends are using their savings for trips to Europe and new homes I will use most of mine on keeping me feeling somewhat ok. That’s life. And in the words of my wonderful Grandma this weekend, “Life’s a Bitch and then you die!” made me laugh out loud!
I’ve learned that flying in a small two seater plane with a hangover is a VERY bad idea, but if you must do it… Either bring a sturdy plastic bag or realize that the windows do actually open. This knowledge will come in handy & keep you from puking (perhaps repeatedly!) into your own lap while sitting a mere six inches or so from the pilot. Trust me on this one.
Also, hemorrhoids… Truth.
Sending good, healing vibes your way.
I’ve learned to Not take Anything for Granted. A few years ago, and it still feels quite recent.. I almost lost all of my hearing, and Never got it back. I had to have the Courage to adapt to the sudden changes, and keep on going forward. Also, to have empathy, and never to judge others. It was a tough and humbling lesson to learn.. And still there are days, I am still learning, to Trust people let them help me, hear sometimes. Keep on having courage Ali! 🙂
I’ve learned that adults really don’t know everything and that no one ever truly “grows up”. I’m almost 30 and I still spend most of my day just making shit up.
Happy tuesday! I hope some of these answers make your day. 🙂
^^ HIGH FIVE!!! 😉
I’ve learned that even though it’s hard being honest, it really is the best policy.
I’ve learned that attitude might not be everything, but it is a big thing… and I try my best to always have a good one.
Today I also (re)learned how cute videos of dogs can be, even when they aren’t puppies, and even when I think I’m too “excitingly busy” to take 1 minute to watch them. Hopefully this can put a smile on your face, at least for a second: http://www.boreme.com/posting.php?id=29391
A few things I’ve learned…
-Anything said in jest is believed (by the jester) to be at least partially true
-Eating 2 pounds of vegetables (like baby carrots) in a day makes your stomach hurt
-Even adults earning great salaries will go out of their way to get free food
-You can be chronologically 30, but feel 22
As a person who likes to make other people happy, I’ve learned sometimes I have to do what’s right for me and the people that get pissed either get over it or aren’t worth it. I’ve also learned that cookie dough is the cure for most bad days 🙂
I love reading your updates! I think of you often and hope you find something to smile about each day!!! #sweatingforali
I have always wanted one of those shirts. I think the best lesson I have learned was that I love my child more than I thought possible. My mother always told me I would. That said..nothing else matters.
I’ve learned that hugging my beagle does actually make pretty much everything just a tiny bit better. (Note that I don’t have a Tyler to Facetime with, so Shiloh the beagle is my cure-all.)
I’ve also learned to never stop fighting for your own healthcare (both as a patient and an employee at a world renowned hospital). It’s hardly ever easy, but it often does make a difference in the end.
I’ve learned that no matter what kind of childhood you had, you can choose to be happy. You can choose to make a better life for yourself instead of being miserable and becoming a product of your upbringing. I pray you get better soon!
I’ve learned that I’m capable of a LOT more than I give myself credit for. Pushing myself out of my comfort zone (socially, physically, intellectually) is difficult and nerve wracking, but it’s pretty much always worth it.
I have learned that a furry friend’s love can make everything else fade away!
Hi Ali, I’m Ann! Good to virally meet you! I’ve learned, in the past year after reading your blog,that I genuinely care about your well being!! This is the first time I’ve commented…I have UC and it sucks! The bathroom is mostly where I spend my time(especially lately). I’m always comforted by your comments, maybe selfishly, because I know someone knows the feeling of such a hidden disability. I’m truly saddened by the fall back that is happening with you right now, and all I can do is continue praying for your remission. Just know you aren’t alone in this “crappy” situation(pun certainly intended;)) I know this will get better, and that’s my positive sentiment:) hahaha! So the next time you are in your most comforting room in the house rest assured I will most likely be in mine! Keep being honest and positive because I think you are a pretty amazing person(from what I can gather in your blog;) Take care!
I’ve learned that its OK to be a big weirdo – someone out there will love you just the way you are.
Thanks for writing your blog, Ali.
I’ve learned that its OK to be a big weirdo – someone out there will love you just the way you are.
Thanks for writing your blog, Ali.
Life is happening now. Enjoy now. If all you do is look forward to the weekend, to turning 21, to finishing school, to getting married, etc., you’ve just wasted all your time looking forward to things instead of actually enjoying the current moment.
I’ve learned that being happy is one of the most important things in life. My motto: do what makes you happy. always.
I’ve learned that all time we have here is precious.
I’ve learned that the things that make you the most nervous are some of the best things to ever happen to you. I’ve also been learning that when it comes to any type of post injury running it isn’t about the mileage or the time, it’s about being able to get out there without pain. And this shin splint recovery is teaching me to not take running for granted and to listen to my body. Feel better, Ali.
When I was little, my dad took me fishing at the pier. His first (and possibly best) piece of advice was to “always spit with the wind”. Definitely adhere to that one 🙂
ive learned that family is the most important thing in your life. no one can ever replace what they mean to me 🙂
I have learned that when all else fails, when everything seems like it couldn’t get any better and all is lost, you always have Hope. Hope and Faith get me through it all, for I know how bad I have had it, and I know how worse others are. Jesus is better than optimism! Thank God for life and love. ; )
I’ve learned comparison truly is the thief of joy. Someone will always have more, do more, be more and you will drive yourself crazy if you try to keep up. Feel better, Ali.
I have learned, that even when those I love drive me crazy, I should value every moment I spend with them. Also, I have learned to worry less and live more.
Ali, you are so inspiring and I have been reading your blog for 2 years now. I have learned so much from you and just know that I am praying and pulling for you. You are so strong and continue to motivate me (even without the running). You will get past this… don’t give up hope!
I have learned that all people come into your life for a reason, regardless of whether the experience was good or bad,
I’ve learned to appreciate all I have and remember that even on our bad days, somebody has it worse and we are blessed and lucky.
And following your journey, I have learned to appreciate the opportunity to run and work out even when I’m not really in the mood.
I’ve learned that it’s ok to be myself and that most of the things I worry about aren’t worth it.
I learned that you should take many pictures/videos of your parents, bc someday, maybe soon, they won’t be there
Things could always be worse.
PS. Currently doing prep for tomorrow’s biannual colonoscopy. What should I write on my rear to amuse my GI? He’s sort of a serious dude and I attempt to provide levity.
PPS. This is like my 10th and I still do not like Gatorade. Or colonoscopies. Meh.
I’ve learned that good wine and good friends can almost always make you feel better, no matter what.
I’ve learned that when it comes to friends quality will always win out over quantity, and those quality friends will become family in the long run
I was training for my first marathon and was just diagnosed with a tibial stress fracture. I learned that I have to be patient and that the ability to run should not be taken for granted!
I’ve learned that life is short and losing a parent sure makes me thankful for those people I still have in my life.
Your parents won’t always be there so appreciate them now and don’t complain about them. You have them while others wish they did.
Hi Ali! I check in to your blog everyday, hoping for a post! I’m sending happy and healthy thoughts your way. In life, I’ve learned that “the price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Thoreau
I always try to appreciate the opportunities I am given, and not take anything for granted. You’re inspiring Ali, don’t give up faith!
I have learned that even though I have been a nurse for over 20 years, when one of my kids get really sick…all that knowledge goes out the window and my emotions take over : / Sad, but true!!
I’ve learned that money and nice things will come and go, but the people you love are what’s important and deserve your time and energy.
I’ve learned that I cannot do it all and now I am OK with that….sort of. Working on it, ok?
Sending you positive thoughts and that the good days come back soon and stay!
I’ve learned from my own health woes, though much lesser than yours, to never take my health for granted. To fight for the things that are important in life. And to always, always tell the people you love just how much you love them!
I’ve learned that being diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease makes me a very eligible bachelor.
I have learned that your health is the most important thing you have and when your things are not right with that, everything else is challenging. I start my first iron IV infusions next week. I have all these goals in which I want to accomplish, but yet I am scared my body won’t allow me to get there. You have given me courage.
I’ve learned that career ambition is highly overrated, and general happiness/contentment in all areas of life is way more important.
I’ve learned…to appreciate the little things in life, whether that’s a day without 15 bathroom trips (I know you can relate), when one of my students “gets” something he/she hasn’t before, when it’s sunny and I can eat lunch outside, or having a great run…Sometimes I find it harder to be an optimist than a pessimist but hey, I’m trying to look on the bright side of things!
*So sorry you’re not feeling any better-I so feel for you and wish I could give you a hug and maybe send you a few cute puppies to snuggle! Sadly I can’t do either but just remember that you’ve got a TON of people behind you!!!! Tomorrow’s run is for you my dear! Stay strong.
I’ve learned there’s a huge different between “I can’t” and “I choose not to” (at least when health is not concerned…I wish it were true for health issues, too!)
I’ve learned that sometimes its okay to be selfish and do what’s best for ME. I deserve it every once in a while.
I’ve learned that health everything; the hard way, and it sucks. I’m thinking of you, and I’ll start #sweatingforali. I’ve also learned friends are great to lean on. I’m glad you have such good ones.
I have learned that, despite laying out the best of plans, they will more than likely not work out. And this is ok, because I have also learned that I am pretty good at rolling with the punches and dealing with the nonsense.
Ali: We are rooting for you over here in the Midwest!! I have learned that just because I cannot do something perfectly doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t attempt it. I have learned that I can get an incredible amount of joy out of doing something that I love whether I do it perfectly (or as well as the next person) or not. Hang in there, Ali!
I’ve learned that regrets are worthless; you can’t change what has already happened, so it is pointless to stress out about it. Learn from it and move forward.
I pray that your body heals soon, Ali.
I learned that no matter how much you love something and work it into your life it can so easily be taken away from you but it is so worth the fight to get it back no matter how hard it is to do it . Ali, I admire you so much for your strength. I have been struggling to get back to running but something has been thrown in to sideline it for the past 6 months (injury, kids, work ). But it doesn’t matter running is my gift and I will get it back no matter what it takes.
I’ve learned that your family is not necessarily the one you are born into or marry into, it’s the one that you cannot wait to see again even though all you’re going to do is sit and watch The Real Housewives and eat pizza.
I’ve learned to appreciated every day you feel well and ok enough to function…there are apparently a boat load of ups and downs when chronically sick and a good or a bad day can literally be around the corner anytime…hope you feel better, I don’t know how to give you hope- I’ve been hopeless recently with regards to illness myself but I’m thinking about you…can’t wait for you to be back to your healthier self- your positivity and happiness was and will be contagious again!
The most important lesson I learned was my first year of teaching- Laugh until you cry otherwise you’ll cry and you wont stop! And when all else fails find a cute puppy to play with.
i’ve learned not to be sullen to your supervisor during a review or else she will go and tweet smack talk about you on her professional account dohhhhh jk jk no not at all. professionalism.
i’m sorry things suck.
I’ve learned the importance of good grammar – meaning it can save lives! For example:
Let’s eat Grandma
Let’s eat, Grandma
I can’t take the credit for making this up but I sure believe in it!
I’ve learned that sometimes it is best to keep your mouth shut when you don’t have anything nice to say.
I have learned that sweating in NYC is super fun thanks to Susan and her fabulous tour guide skills (and so much more about the city!) and that when Delta tells you that you have a 4:15 flight that really mean 7:15…I hope….
I’ve learned that I thought I was in control of my runs for a really long time….boy was I wrong. When my appendix burst and I was in the hospital for a month last year, I learne that I only have control over the credit card that signs me up for a race; everything else is up to my health. I’ll never take for granted my crappy, slow, achy and poorly-arched back again. They are wonderful in every way compared to hospital walls and immobility. Every run is a PR because I got the chance to run at all. You’re a real inspiration Ali. Every run I do – a part of me runs it for you, too. Even the crappy, sweaty ones.
God BLESS YOU and heal you! I’ve learned that there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. Always.
Most important lesson: cherish all the good things in your life, because they can disappear in no time!
The difference between there, their, & they’re is important too. 🙂
I’ve learned that it’s a lot easier to get into power struggles with elementary school students than to get out of them. And also that the best way to put sprinkles on an ice cream cone is to roll the ice cream in the sprinkles. A piddly spoonful of sprinkles dropped on just doesn’t cut it.
I’ve learned to be grateful for a healthy body, that a “perfect” body isn’t nearly important as a healthy body. I’m currently training for my first half marathon and never considered myself a runner before. This process has taught me to never say I “can’t” do something. Your blog, today’s post especially, has really taught me to be grateful for a healthy body that is able to push such strengths, and that yes, I GET to run, and for that reason I should have nothing to complain about.
I’ve learned to truly appreciate the things that I am able to do, even when I am in a grumpy, pity-party type mood. You’re extremely inspiring Ali, I’m rooting for you!!! 🙂
I’ve learned to give up being perfect and to focus on being happy.
Thank you for the reminder not to bitch about dumb things. I feel like I need to hear that often. Hang in there, lady. The good days will come again.
I learned that even though improperly used apostrophes make me twitchy, it is best to keep it to myself. Also, you’re giveaway ends on my birthday – so obviously I should win.
I learned to not compare myself to others when it comes to body image and working out. I am my biggest critic and no one else really cares!!!
I’ve learned that I’m so much stronger than I’ve ever given myself credit for.
I learned that summer in the city is unbearably hot; no matter how many fans you have in your apartment.
I’ve learned to deal with my in-laws. Enough said.
I have learned how to hide tears during sappy movies and/or movies you “shouldn’t” cry about, so people can’t make fun of me.
I’ve learned that I have so much more than I need, and I feel really blessed!
I’ve been going through a particularly rough time with my health, too, and I’ve learned that it is important to let yourself feel the emotions you’re going through, even if they aren’t the happiest ones at the time. Instead of trying to put a happy face on every day, even when you don’t mean it, you should let yourself feel, and express in a healthy manner, the emotions you’re having. I kind of think that doing this is ultimately an important part of coming out on the other side and healing. You just have to let yourself go through it, you know?
I’ve learned that you should never send an email that you can’t read outloud without nasty undertones. Let’s just say I have had a lot of those fly through my inbox recently, and I just shake my head at those who are not as wise as I am. Hope you feel better soon 🙁
I learned that pizza bites and stoli salads will cure any and all sad emotions over boys, academic probation, and/or breaking ankles for a hemp bracelet.
I’ve learned there is a difference between problems and my problems. You can’t fix everything… sometimes a kind word and sincere support is the best you can do.
I’ve learned that dairy makes my skin breakout. Goodbye McDonald’s soft serve 🙁
I’ve learned while I’ve battled c-diff and colitis for the last year that I’ve been very blessed. My GI doc is sending me away 800 miles to the Mayo Clinic for further tests and my Dad has saved up all his vacation to take me (his 30-something year old daughter). My biggest lesson learned is to know where all bathrooms are and check if there is toilet paper first.
I’ve learned that we’re all stronger than we think we are. And that changing “have to” to “get” is an absolutely awesome way of looking at almost anything. 🙂
I’ve learned that hindsight is always 20/20. Also that what’s done is done so don’t spend time on regrets! I hope you get better real soon.
I learned there’s no room (or time) to be selfish once you have kids!
I learned that sometimes your body has a mind of its own and will start attacking itself even if you’ve been relatively healthy. (I’ve just been diagnosed with Lupus and am waiting a more specific diagnosis.)
Good manners will get you a long way. Yes I’m from the South 🙂
I’ve learned SH%T could be worse..
I’ve learned that it really is important to not take the people you love for granted. After losing my father to cancer, I’ve seen what is important in life (friends, family, and fun) and what isn’t (work and silly stresses).
I learned that “Everything is ok in the end, if it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.”
I *JUST* learned that I GET to run in the heat. So many of us can use a little perspective. Thanks Ali, and get well soon!
I have 3 children that were all born within 3 years of each other, which has definitely taught me that I can pretty much handle anything even with them all screaming at me. But honestly, Ali, you have taught me commitment…I can’t believe that you still try to run even through all the pain…I feel like I would have given up ages ago. So no matter when you are able to really get back to being ahardcore runner…you will always be a runner, even if you can only do a few steps at a time.
Not necessarily the most important…but quite helpful: I’ve learned that my mother is, in fact, always, always, always right.
Something I’m still learning-to be confident in myself and my abilities as a person!
I’ve learned that we are stronger and can endure more than we think we can. And that fear and worry aren’t worth taking energy and time from somthing else.
I’ve learned that the only person who can truly make me happy is myself.
I’m rooting for you to get better everyday, Ali!
I’ve learned two very important things ::
1) You can ignore it, but that doesn’t mean it’ll go away.
2) I’ve learned that I have Spidey-Sense for bathrooms!!! No, really. As soon as “that” feeling hits I just head in the right direction, even if I’ve never been there before!! 😉
i’ve recently been reminded to not take everything for granted. And that even on the shittest of days, we should try to find one positive/happy thing because life is to short to live any other way!
I have learned that since having twins one year ago next week, sleep will never be my best friend…ever again, and I am adjusting to that just fine.
I’ve learned that there will always be more to learn!
I’ve learned that no matter how bad you think you have it, someone else has it worse than you. Oh, how I wish you weren’t that someone else. xoxo
I’ve learned/realized that it’s not worth wasting your life in a job you can’t stand. If you’re not happy, it’s up to you to make yourself happy, you can’t rely on others to do that for you.
I’ve learned that following the MO from “What About Bob?” (“Baby steps to the elevator…”), can help me achieve anything from finishing a marathon to completing a novel, but the moment I say “I can’t,” it usually means “I won’t.”
I’ve learned that there is sunshine at the end of every storm. In other words, life will get better at some point, even if the cards aren’t in your favor. Ali, I love your blog!! (another Allie/Ali with a blog..I have a gluten free blog!!) I have bad digestive issues from gluten and lactose intolerance, and although its a little different than crohn’s, I still get the tummy troubles. hope you feel better soon, Ali! keep your head up 🙂
I’ve learned to not “harshly” compare myself to others..there will always be someone prettier, faster and smarter. Just be yourself
I’ve learned happiness is a choice, and that the only way to topple fear is to conquer it. Oh, and that laughter and pancakes really are the best medicine (or at least the best distraction).
ps. totally going to start using that hashtag.
I’ve learned that dairy just isn’t worth it. Unless it’s an amazing ice cream sundae and you are able to be in the comfort of your own home, by yourself, and are willing to put up with the most intense stomach pains EVER and cold sweats. If you’re willing to do that, then just take the sundae in the bathroom with you, and pretend you’re camping.
I’ve learned that no matter how much you try, you cannot change others’ actions/behaviors/attitudes – but you do have the power to change how you respond to others and whether or not you are going to let others bring you down.
I’ve learned to NEVERRRR trust a fart….especially after a summer run 🙂
Ali, my mom has chrons and r.a., her insurance also denied her when the doctors wanted to put her on remicade infusions. She found a couple of grants that pay for it for her…One is Healthwell and one is Patient Access Network. Maybe one of these can help you get the medicine your body so desperately needs!!
I learned that being a mommy is the best thing that ever happened to me
I second that! It changes everything in a very good way!
I learned that I know just about zilch. But at least I’m learning, right?
Thinking of you.
I learned that it takes me three weeks of running before I actually like running. But I’m there, and I’m sorry you aren’t running yet 🙁
I can’t reiterate enough about what you said on how important your mom is. I have been in and out of the hospital 20 of the past 33 days for complications with my Crohn’s disease. My mom has been here with me every single day sometimes for 12 or 13 hours just sitting there, keeping my company, and holding my hand.
Aren’t moms the best! Sorry to hear you are sick, will be thinking and praying for you.
stolen from my dad: “never buy just one bag of chips.”
I’ve learned to stop using social media to evaluate my life. I forget where I read this but this is a great reminder: “Don’t compare your normal life with someone else’s “highlight reel””
I’ve learned o appreciate the things that I have. One of my favorite quotes is “Someone else is happy with less than what you have.” I try and look at my life and realize just how blessed I am. Sorry Ali for your health issues.
I’ve learned that hard work is more important than anything when reaching your goals. You can read all the books and have all the inspiration, but you have to put the work in.
I learned that I would give anything to be done with bar exam studying and that I’m dumb moving from a state where I had already took it and now have to retake it again.
Wow, I can relate so much to this. I’m on crutches after ACL and meniscus surgery (4 more weeks to go) and I get so mad at people complaining about working out. I’m like, “At least you have the option!”
What I have learned is to know what you can and can’t do and ask for help when you need it. I have always been a very independent person so being on crutches for 6 weeks has really hindered me. When I try to do everything myself, I end up failing and just getting more frustrated. It’s easier to ask someone to help than end up hurting myself.
And yes, mom’s really do make the best grilled cheeses in the world.
I’ve learned that loving someone is not always easy, but that does not mean that it is not worth it.
I’ve learned that my ‘bad day’ is almost always someone else’s ‘good day’ and to be simply thankful for the immense blessings I’ve been given.
I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how you get there as long as you enjoy the ride.
I’ve learned to live in the NOW…it doesn’t do any good to worry and stress over tomorrow because when you do that, you miss out on today. I’ve also learned that sucking up and brown nosing may help you win contests…Ali, has anyone ever told you how gorgeous your hair is?! ;o)
I learned that it’s better to dance to the beat of your own drum. Feel better soon!
I learned that cats will hurl their bodies against your bedroom door to demand food and/or attention at 4 am.
I’ve learning to embrace change. I’m always so scared of it, but I’ve learned that change always brings good stuff.
I’ve learned to appreciate every tiny thing that you have – although someone will always have more, there will unfortunately be someone with less.
Also, I’ve learned not to eat spinach salad for three days in a row. It doesn’t end well.
I’ve learned I have to live in the moment.. Stop focusing on what will be happening in the future as I miss out on the best moments that are happening today.
I’ve learned that money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy a puppy. Same thing.
I’ve also learned that being weird is always better than trying to be “normal”.
Oh Ali, I’m so sorry. I was so happy for you reading your earlier posts when you were starting to feel better, and it really really sucks that you have to deal with this.
I’ll be #sweatingforali as well, and I truly hope that you start to feel better soon.
I love the I Heart Sweat shirts, and would love to win one. I’ve learned (or am trying to) to find good in every day.
By the way, the ‘I learned that credit cards are not “fake money.”’ under your inspirations for what to write made me laugh at loud.
I´ve basically learned that you have to keep fighting. That when times get darker it´s the time for light to come at the end of the tunnel. And I´ve learned that I´m the most awesome person and that´s the only opinion that matters, not what everybody else says I am
I’ve learned that you have to love yourself before loving someone else–and only then can you find someone who you love/loves you back in return! A cheesy sounding yet awesome lesson.
I read your blog all the time but never comment–I hope that you are feeling better soon.
The most important lesson I’ve learned is to find the silver lining in everything even if it doesn’t seem possible.
and on those days it feels impossible, eat a lot of chocolate!
I’ve learned several important things in my life. One of these is that it is important to start taking care of my health when I am young so I don’t have to struggle when I’m older. Another thing that I have learned is to just be myself and do what I enjoy, and by doing so, I’ll find a happy life and someone who loves me. That one is probably most important.
When I was a kid whenever anyone was opening birthday presents and shook the box, my grandpa would say, “maybe it’s curtains for your sittin’ room.” I always thought it was so weird, why would he think anyone would give a kid curtains? I came to learn (after quite a few years) that he was teasing and it was just his funny saying for underwear. No huge life lesson, but my grandpa has now been gone for 14 years and whenever I see anyone open presents it always makes me smile and remember that silly saying.
That other people have much bigger problems than I do! I can’t wait to read another positive post soon!
I’ve learned that if I drink a full Nalgene and a cup of hot tea before bed, I can poop in the morning before I run instead of worrying whose tree I’m going to dart behind. I’ve also learned that poop is a perfectly acceptable topic of conversation among runners.
Can I just say THANK YOU for admitting that other people use bushes/trees?!?! And, I may need to take up running if this is acceptable chit chat 🙂
I’ve learned that your health is SO important and we can’t take it for granted. My fiance’s entire family fights gastronintestinal problems (like yours Ali!) from IBS to diverticulitis to Crohns. I’ve been fortunate to live my life without any major illnesses. I’m rooting you on Ali and I read your blog to understand not only your disease but all the other gastrointestinal problems that plague my family as well. From an outsider, it’s hard to see the people you love deal with something that really doesn’t have a perfect answer/cure. And it really wasn’t until I met my fiance did I really understand how these types of illnesses are debilitating. You’re awesome, Ali! And I’m thinking of you. We’ve never met but you can bet your ass I’m still gonna root for you and pray for ya.
That pickles do NOT dry your blood! Thankful my grandmother was wrong about that one!
Okay not to be a copycat but I’m with you on the ‘never take advantage of your health lesson’ which is 100% because of my dad. He never,ever took his health for granted and got out there at noon each day to run 5 miles regardless of the conditions. It’s now because of this that his dementia has progressed so slowly, surprising all his doctors.
The other lesson .. as cheesy as it sounds .. is that you can truly do anything you put your mind to. I mean, remember me in high school? Definitely not the marathon runner that I am today. But at some point, thanks to inspiration from my dad, I decided I wanted to run. And then I decided I wanted to run a marathon. And then I decided I wanted to qualify for Boston.. and I made it all happen. 10 years ago I never, ever would have thought these things were possible .. but I am so sure that with enough confidence, determination, and drive anyone can make their dreams come true.
Dare I admit that I’ve kind of been bit by the Ironman bug? I somewhat despise swimming, so the whole idea is pretty ridiculous to begin with .. but the thought of putting my mind and body to the ultimate challenge is the appealing part. Accomplishing all these running related goals the past few years has truly made me believe that I can do anything, so why not try?
Jeeze this was long. Sorry for the rambles .. but I hope things look up for you soon,lady. If you ever want a Beech Hill delivery just let me know and I’ll make it happen!
My mom has chronic pain and food allergies up the wazoo – she would kill (like you) to be able to walk a mile, nevermind run one – so I’ve learned the difference between complaining about problems “oh my last mile was a 8:40 instead of a 7:15” and REAL problems “oh, I may never walk again”
I need to get back on the sweat train for myself, but I’d definitely do it for you, too, Ali! You inspire strangers with your honesty and sparkle, even when you don’t know it or feel it! Get your friend to put those bracelets up for sale and use the money to get the $15k treatments! I’d totally contribute. <3 <3
I have learned that you have to take great risks to reap great rewards. Its easier said than done, but I sometimes have to remind myself of that when I am scared to do something in my life!
I’ve learned that insurance companies have case managers…. people who follow you directly (and who you/doctors/hospitals/whoever can talk to each time you need anything instead of having to re explain your whole life to a new dipstick each phone call) and advocate for you within the insurance company. It’s the only way we’ve been able to get Crohn’s meds covered!!!! (Look into it!)
I have two I Heart t’s, so I’m opting out of the winner’s circle for another….but as an aside, I would TOTALLY rock that bracelet. And maybe take pics of it on runs all over, like a traveling gnome. Just sayin. Hang in there, champ.
I’m learning to let go of the stress over the things you can’t control. The extra stress will just make you unhappy.
I’ve learned I CAN change… if I really want to.
I’ve learned that life and health are precious and we really can’t take it for granted! I’ve learned that I want to run and don’t have to. I’m lucky that my illness doesn’t stop me from wanting or being able to! Still praying for you Ali!
I learned that sometimes you have to take a big risk to get to where you want to be even if you don’t have the biggest support team
Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you can’t spend time on yourself.
I’ve learned that life can change in the blink of an eye, and you need to not waste a moment of it — especially worrying about what everyone else thinks.
I’ve also learned that to always make sure the car is actually in “park!”
Crossing my fingers for you that the insurance complany actually works in your favor!! I want so much for you to really feel better!!!
I learned that complacency doesn’t always mean lazy. (This coming from someone who always struggled to be/do/have the best and is trying to settle down…)
I believe it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I have learned that we teach people how to treat us through our own acceptance (or rejection) of someone else’s behavior.
I hope you feel better soon! I think the biggest lesson I’ve learned is the only person you should ever be competing against is yourself…not to compare yourself with others because there is no comparison.
I have learned that true friends don’t bring you down, but rather lift you up.
I have also learned to always look at the silver linings (no matter how dull they may be)!
I know you didn’t set out to be one, but you are such an inspiration to so many of us out here whose lives are touched by Crohn’s.
And, I also think of you when I watch So You Think You Can Dance every week!
First, I’m so sorry things aren’t going so well 🙁 I’m sure things are going to start looking up for you soon!
And my biggest life lesson? Do things that scare you. What scared me before? Running a marathon. So what did I do? I ran one. It happened to be this year’s Boston, and now I’m sort of scared of races. But what am I going to do? Run. More. Races.
I have learned not to take your loved ones for granted…no matter how much they drive you crazy!
I’ve learned that some people are just toxic and bring me down. I’m a better me without them in my life.
Oh Ali, my heart just breaks for you. I really, really hope something starts working for you soon. No one deserves to be in so much pain!
I’m learning that every day is a new opportunity to start over and be a better person than the day before. Super cheesy, but very true.
I’ve learned that we all have the capacity to surprise ourselves and almost every limitation is self-defined.
I’ve learned to just pay the extra few bucks to have the vineyard ship your wine home. Having your suitcase come around the carousel leaking and reeking of red wine is never fun! Neither is having to wheel it out of the airport leaving a trail!
I am sorry that the Humira did not work and you are still having so much pain/bathroom trips and your life is not disrupted. I totally know what you mean about not being able to deal with people’s complaints about seemingly small things when what is most important is health. I go through that with my son when mom’s complain about things wit their kids that are so insignificant.
Anyway, I also wanted to say that my son is on Stellara! He started 6 weeks ago and it is supposed to take 8 weeks to work but he seems to be getting a little better. His labs are slowly improving and he has had the most energy in the past 3 weeks he has had in months. So, I know a group that advocates for patients with health issues and can maybe help you get the medicine. Let me know if you want me to give you the information. We were denied at first but then my doctor managed to get in approved. I also have a friend who just went through the same things with Stelara and it was a real battle but he ended up getting it.
I have learned that life is way too short to be unhappy. Especially in a job. Also, to always work hard to make you goals come true.
I’ve learned to stick to my values & be comfortable with acting like my big, dorky self when I’m with my friends.
I’ve learned that you are never too old to need your mom.
I am so sorry things have taken a turn for the worse, Ali. I was on Uceris for a while, and I have to warn you: it turned me into a bit of a crazy person. My emotions, which were already pretty fragile, were really all over the place when I was on that drug. I was crying a lot more frequently and felt really depressed. Now that I have been off of it for a few weeks, I feel like some of that cloud has lifted. This may not happen to you, and I really hope it doesn’t, but I wanted to give you a heads up.
I hope you have some good days to make up for these bad ones!
I’ve learned to live in the moment rather than worry about what’s going to happen in the future because worrying is just a waste of energy and time.
I learned that you don’t have to change your goals for your partner, you find the partner (ant there is one!) who embraces your goals 🙂
I’m learning to like every day. You’ve only got one shot at life.
I learned at a young age, “Don’t put Twinkies on your pizza!”, courtesy of the movie “Heavyweights”.
Never have, never will.
Ali, I want you to know that every time I’m on a run and have even a smidge of an urge to quit because it’s too hard or too hot or too sunny, I think of you (uhh, in a non-creepy way, of course…), suck it up, and push on. Through reading your blog, I’ve learned to be truly thankful for my body, imperfections and all.
I’m not a big fan of most HLB’s, but I’m pretty sure I’ll always be a fan of yours. Keep your head up — I’m not sure if you know just how many people you inspire daily!
I’ve learned that you can care about someone you don’t even know simply by reading their blog. And that someone is you, Ali. Cheering you on when you’re feeling good and feeling bad when you’re “not so good”. Here’s hoping all the new meds will help and soon!
I learned to NEVER take things for granted. It could all be gone tomorrow! I really hope you start feeling better soon and your stupid insurance co approved your new meds!
being married to the same person for 27+ years requires a lot of give and take, but it’s worth it!
I’ve lived in Africa for the last two years and I’ve learned that hot showers, clean water, electricity and the ability to hug your family should never be taken for granted. I’ve also learned that when you stop trying to control a situation you enjoy it more and it’s always OK to cry and tell the universe she sucks once and a while. And, just importantly, friends you can discuss bowel movements with are true friends. Rooting for you, Ali.
As a fellow Crohnie and former runner, I’d say the most important lesson I’ve learned in my life (or rather, was forced to learn with having this disease) is that it’s OK to slow down (no, really, it is!).
This has been difficult as I’m the kind of person who wants to do it all, who wants to be the hero, who *hates* feeling weak. But realistically, nobody holds me to those standards. Nobody expects me to be Super Woman besides me.
After a two year long flare-up from 2011 to the beginning of 2013 (with a frightening trip to the hospital late last year), I’ve slowly learned that I have limits and that it’s OK to be vocal about them. It’s OK if I can’t run a 5K every week. It’s OK if I need to rest and take care of myself. It’s OK to just be a blob on the couch if my joints hurt or if I’m exhausted from the bathroom trips. It’s really OK. That’s what I’ve learned.
Anyway, I am so sorry you are not feeling well, Ali. I wish I had something better to say, but I personally understand this disease, so I know it’s just a matter of time and nothing I say would change the situation. Still, I hope you start to feel better very soon!
enjoy the simple things in life and everything else will fall into place
I’ve learned that you can do everything right (eating healthy, working out, keeping your mind active), but your mother will still get dementia at 59 (right after she retired from 31 years on the police force)…so you should still do everything “right,” but love more and live more.
I have learned that you can’t actually slip on a banana peel, but the thought of it still makes me smile. And on a more serious note, I have learned that how I treat others and what I impart to them, ultimately shapes and defines who I am as a person – good or bad.
You may not feel as much of a runner today as you were last year, but your advice, your heart, determination, and everything you continue to pour into the running community definately screams “strong runner” to me.
Since being diagnosed with Crohns and Colitis I’ve learned many things, but two important lessons are – feel grateful for every day I feel good… because once you have been sick you know how much it means to wake up and feel GOOD and to try my best not to feel sorry for myself, because some one out there for sure has it worse off than me! Love you girl!!!
The most important thing I have learned is that I truly do not have control over anything in life. No matter how many lists I make, no matter how much I plan and scheme, no matter how bad I want something to happen (or no happen), its really not up to me. It may seem depressing to say, but it actually gives me a lot of relief. Knowing that I can’t control anything frees me to live my life one day at a time and to enjoy every moment to the best of my ability rather than waste it.
I’ve learned everything happens for a reason even if I can’t figure out what that reason may be. Hope things turn around for you soon 🙂
I’ve learned that worrying about things almost never changes the out come of events, and is a waste of time. I’m still having trouble putting that into practice. 😉
When selling your house, always throw dirty underwear in the hamper.
I’ve learned that if I got up and ran (biked, swam, whatever) when I started thinking about it, I’d be done by the time I usually get to it! And it IS a blessing to have the option!
Insurance really does own your ass, and it’s pretty ridiculous. I’ll definitely be using that hashtag! 🙂 Lesson learned: (not the most important, but a really good one) As a resident of FL, I learned the painful way that sunscreen is a best friend you should take everywhere.
I’ve learned that I can’t be obsessive and worry about everything. Worst case scenario does not always happen. I can’t control the universe or raise my son in a protective bubble ;-). “Just try to relax and enjoy life” is my new mantra.
I’ve learned that people never really change and sometimes you just have to learn to adapt.
Having Crohn’s has taught me 1) how to poop in public and 2) that every bathroom is a good bathroom, regardless of its particular level of cleanliness; and 3) when I feel good, go for it.
I’ve learned that ….In my weakness… I am strong! And that you can never have enough toilet paper especially a roll in your car!
First, ugh!!! I hate this SO much for you! I too was so happy and encouraged by your couple of positive posts. I really hoped you had turned the corner so to speak. (I too am naive, and often wrong…boo!) I’m definitely thinking positive thoughts on your behalf, and really hoping that the insurance company grows a heart and you get the drugs!
Second- I learned that one should NEVER consume even one small (jumbo) margarita and then attend a cardio kickboxing class. This leads one to well, fall of course, but also tear their ACL in the process. Not the best day for sure, and not the smartest move, lol! Luckily one (ok, ok I) came out of it all ok with just a partial tear that didn’t require surgery.
I’ve learned that every moment of our life, every action, phrase, relationship, shapes who we are and that we should be proud of that fact! We’re not meant to be clones, but awesome individuals 🙂
Ali, I’ve been reading your blog for a while, and just wanted to let you know that my heart breaks for you, and I am praying for recovery. I know that doesn’t help or make you feel any better, but I wanted to let you know anyway. I’ve learned from your blog how the power of humor and positive thinking can change the course of someone’s day!
I’ve learned, in the year since I started running, that running makes me a) a much nicer person, b) a better mom to my twin 3 year old girls and c) starving all of the time!
I’ve learned that I am very lucky to do all the things I’m able to do–running, reading what I want, expressing my opinions when I want to. There are so many people around the world who are stuggling with impossibly weighty things.
Ali, I’m so sorry things aren’t looking great right now. I’ll continuing to keep you in my thoughts!
Do what makes you happy, not what others think will make you happy. I learned this the last couple years of graduate school, I knew I should finish, and I did, but I wanted nothing to do with that degree whatsoever which most people do NOT understand. Difficult conversations to have, but freeing once over and the world somehow didn’t end.
I’ve been lurking for awhile now…but please know that I’m sending good thoughts your way.
As for what I’ve learned….work shouldn’t be your sole identify.
I have gone through many serious health related issues in my life, I have learned that the older I get the happier I am because frankly, I am still here, still alive, and still on this great journey.
I’ve had some family drama going on lately and it has taught me how important family truly is. While my niece and I used to fight like cats and dogs (she’s only 9 years younger than me.. more like a little sister), we have become incredibly close in the past couple months and I would do ANYTHING for her.
Sorry to hear that you are still not feeling well! I have learned that parents are people and superman/superwoman all in one.
I’ve learned so many important things! I’m finding myself most recently reminding myself (alot) that I can’t control everything and need to let things go.
I have learned that you must always trust your instincts when it comes to making decisions, especially health related. I have also learned that it is important to let people know (even strangers) when they have helped you and thank them. Thank you Ali! My son has health issues that are somewhat similar and reading your blog helps me understand what he isn’t able to articulate.
I’ve learning that taking care of myself is the #1 thing that makes me happy.
Hope you feel much better very soon, Ali.
I have learned to take advantage of the good days. (thanks for that lesson Crohn’s disease!)
I’ve learned that you never know until you ask…
I’ve learned (well I’m trying to learn) the importance of patience.
I’ve learned to accept that the journey is what’s important – not the end goal. I also recently learned that eggs are NOT dairy… can’t believe I thought this was true for 26 years!
Your personal strength and sense of humor are a huge inspiration, Ali! Thanks for sharing your story.
I learned that dentists are not in fact the devil, and avoiding them at all costs will come with a hefty fine later in life.
I’ve learned that if you rush through registration you may accidentally sign up for a marathon instead of a half-marathon…
I’ve learned never to take anything – your friends, your family, your health, your peace of mind… – for granted.
I’ve learned that the television will not talk back to you no matter how loud you yell. And I’ve learned that Crohn’s isn’t convenient, and parks you in front of the untalkable television way too often.
I’m so sorry your back to feeling crappy.
The most important lesson I have learned recently is to buy clothes that fit you, not clothes that are a size you like. To be nice to starbucks baristas no matter how crappy your day is, because chances are the 15 people in front of you didn’t say thank you when they got their misto. And to read all these blogs and tweets with the online-grain-of-salt that most people are just telling you the good stuff (i don’t think you’ll be accused of THAT. Feel better!)
I would be up that insurance company’s ass so fast, they would be giving me that shot tomorrow. You feel awful, you’ve been sick for months, what more does the bureaucracy need. Call and call and keep calling them until they give in, you deserve to feel better.
as far as life lessons. I learned that chafing hurts really bad, and desitin helps. it’s like butt rash, right?
I’ve learned that no matter how much easier it is not to work out, I always feel better when I’m doing it consistently.
I’ve learned that the more you give the more you get in return.
Also, never take anything for granted! Thanks for the reminder. Hang in there, I think you are amazing.
I’ve learned it’s ok to break a few rules- you have to do what makes your heart happy! 🙂
And recently, I’ve learned that patience is the hardest skill to master– but perhaps the most important one to have!
Hope you start feeling better soon!!
I’ve learned to count my blessings. My “problems” are trivial compared to what so many people are going through. I’ve learned to keep things in perspective and be grateful for each and every day.
There’s no such thing as being too nice!
I learned to be grateful, and your posts are a good reminder. GET WELL SOON!!!!! And thanks for the giveaway!
I’ve learned that worrying about tomorrow does nothing but ruin today.
I’ve leaned that running is my cheapest form of therapy!
I’ve learned nothing is more comforting than a hug from your mom!
I hope this is just a minor bump in your road to recovery. Feel better!
I’ve learned that it’s better to have one really amazing friend that you can count on, a friend who will be there for you no matter what (heck, who you can call to get you out of the bathroom when you’re locked in) than a handful or more of just so-so friends.
Sending lots of prayers your way, Ali. I’ll run for you today.
I love coming to your blog! I was just diagnosed a few months ago, right after starting university, and I still haven’t found the right medicine to make me feel better! It’s so helpful to come here and know that I’m not the only one out there who has to deal with all of this crap!
Anyways, what I’ve learned is that some days you can either laugh about things or cry about them, and it takes a lot less energy to laugh. There is no end to the toilet jokes in my house now.
Over the years, I’ve learned that I heart sweat. a lot. This shirt would be perfect for me! 🙂
I’ve also learned to treat others the way you want to be treated. Cheesy but true!
I’ve learned that life is short. When you are feeling good make the most of it because you just don’t know when a flare up is around the corner.
Always add more chocolate chips than the recipe calls for.
I hope you feel better soon. Whenever I see a new post from you I always hope it’s good news. I’m really glad you have good friends and family and Brian to take care of you, but I hope you’re feeling well soon.
I’ve learned to always say I love you to someone, even when you’re angry, because that may be the last opportunity you have. Life is shitty like that. The time we have with our loved ones is uncertain, and I’ve learned that I want to give all the hugs and kisses I can.
I’ve also learned that band-aids might not make the pain go away, but it’s good to pretend they do. Especially the Strawberry Shortcake kind.
I’ve learned a lot is TWO words, not one!
Although you may not believe it now, I’ve learned that ordeals like you are going through will make you stronger!
I read this a few months ago and it has stuck with me every time I am forced to work with difficult people “The goal is more important than the role”
I’m so sorry things aren’t going so well anymore. I really hope your insurance company stops being a bag of shit and gives you the drugs you need!
The most important lesson I’ve learned is that you have to meet people halfway in relationships, friendships, etc. Small, daily efforts from both sides help solidify those relationships, and when trouble or big changes (happy or not) come, they’ll be there for you.
So sorry to hear you’ve had a set back Ali!
I’ve learned a lot of important lessons, but the one I have to keep learning over and over is “Comparison is the enemy of joy”. I think I need to tattoo it on myself somewhere.
Before I tell you the most important lesson I’ve learned, let me again remind you that I am always here to talk all things drugs with you if need be! Just say the word. Also, I’m off on Monday and having lunch on the UES, soooo let me know if you are up for a visitor!
Now, let’s get to the I want to win an I heart sweat shirt part 😉 The most important lesson I’ve learned in my life is that there is nothing in this world like your mother’s love. NOTHING!
I know saying hang in there sucks big time, so I wont say it. Instead, I promise to continue being grateful for all things running and #sweatingforAli and not favoriting your tweets and anything else I can do to help you friend! Thinking of you and sending you many, many, many virtual hugs!
My best lesson came when I was in 8th grade from a softball coach – “Have confidence in yourself.” It can be applied to all aspects of life, and I’ll never forget those words or where I was when she said them to me.
I’ve learned over the last seven months that having a baby is a lot of work! Who knew?! 😉 It makes me appreciate everything that my parents did for me that much more. Also, I’ll admit to being in that 75% thanks to the aforementioned baby. Prep H was my best friend there for a while.
I’ve learned that, although it may be the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do, sometimes you just have to ask for help.
I’ve learned that coming home to my puppy’s unconditional love and smiling face (yes, she smiles!) can make even the crappiest days seem just a little bit better.
I’ve learned that it’s important to be grateful daily. Grateful about family, friends, health, and the little things too.
I’ve learned that the best way you can take care of others is to take care of yourself. Hope you start feeling better again soon!
I’ve learned to appreciate your siblings, especially as you get older.
Feel better, Ali!
The biggest life lesson I’ve learned is that oatmeal for breakfast is 900 times better when you add in half a bag of chocolate chips! YUM! And the other big lesson I’ve learned is that I can’t do everything all the time and I have to learn to be ok with that. It’s ok to say no, it’s ok to not be perfect every second, life will go on!
I’m learning there will never be a magical moment/epiphany of happiness for me in my life (no matter how much I want there to be). I continue to work towards happiness and health every day and try my best to make the right choices to get there. Learning to accept this is hard.
I’ve learned the you can become really attached to a blog and get really invested in the bloggers health and well being. Continued prayers and postive thoughts for you Ali.
My experience this summer is nothing compared to yours, but I have also learned not to take my health for granted. I haven’t been able to run since April due to a pinched nerve. This time away from running has helped me to appreciate it even more. I am hoping to be back at it in a few weeks and I sincerely wish the same for you, Ali.
I’ve learned that when you get older, you realize that your parents were pretty much always right.
I’ve learned to embrace the slow, easy days! But I still love to sweat and would love a shirt!
I didn’t comment on your last posts. I was happy for you but was scared it wouldn’t last (I guess that’s my French side which was speaking in my head ;-)… positivism and optimism are not part of the French culture…). I am sad to read your post today. Hopefully it’s only an hiccup in your recovery.
I love the idea of the #SweatingForAli. That’s a great idea and, if that’s ok with you and your friend, I would be more than happy to use it too 🙂
(and LOVE the bracelet too !!)
And, even if I guess the giveaway is not open to people living abroad, I will quote something I read somewhere and that I try to remember when things get difficult : “Fall seven times, stand up eight”. That is what I am trying to do in my life.
I’ve learned that when you wear a white t-shirt, you’re NOT supposed to wear a white bra, but instead wear a bra the color of your skin, so it doesn’t show through.
I’ve learned that credit cards and student loans are not free money, and (just last week) that if I do not improve my posture, I will turn into one of those hunchbacked old ladies.
the most important life lesson I have learned is that because my mom always listens to me talk (whine, moan, complain) on the phone for as long as i want, and when i tell her I need to go she never gets upset that she didn’t get to tell me about her day (like I probably would), i must also do this for my children. i love my mom!
I’ve learned to live in the moment and make up your mind to be happy. Don’t spend time regretting the past or worrying about the future. Life is precious. Don’t take it for granted.
Keeping our fingers crossed that the nasty words from the doctor will convince the insurance company to approve the medicine you need!
75% of people get hemorrhoids? Really?!? Boy I hope I am in the 25% who don’t. Anyways….I have learned that I get to choose to live my life in a way that makes me happy and it doesn’t have to meet other peoples standards or expectations.
I’ve learned that the most important thing in life is family. My younger brother has a mental disability but he’s taught me more than anyone else about unconditional love and real happiness.
I’ve learned that the secret of happiness is sleep. When you’re sleep deprived, everything falls apart!
Get better,poor Ali. Every run IS a gift, thanks for the reminder.
I’ve learned to never ever give up on yourself. I hope you have better days Ali!
and by your, I, of course, meant you’re*** dating! OOPS!
Currently learning that saying yes can be a very fun and fulfilling option, rather than hesitating and questioning every possible outcome before committing.
Also: can you use your blog as more evidence that your illness is worthy of the Stelara coverage? Sometimes companies look for records to “prove” your need. Your doctors have that, but maybe even more, real-time writing of how it’s affecting your life would help. I’ve got to hope that it’s a person reading your claim, not a robot (even if it feels like it is). You could also add the Crohn’s $$-raising and any PR you got from all of your social media into the mix and see what happens. Maybe I’m too optimistic but holy crap if anyone deserves a $15,000 drug, I’m thinking it’s you. Hang in there, lady!
I’ve learned that sometimes really shitty things happen to wonderful people and that rather than telling them there’s some high cause, or that everything happens for a reason you should bring them ice cream and chocolate.
I’ve learned that that people are usually just doing the best they can with what they have, and it has made me much more compassionate towards others and myself.
I’ve learned to never be facebook friends w/someone your dating. Makes life (& the relationship) so much easier if you remove the ability to be a crazy stalking b*tch!
I’ve learned that you need to appreciate and enjoy the little things. And despite any negativity that surrounds you, you can choose to be happy.
I’ve learned that you really only need a couple of close friends in your life to be blessed and those friends are the ones that will always have your back.
Sending you happy thoughts full of puppies!
You’ll never be happy if you compare yourself to others. Everyone starts and ends in a different place.
I’ve learned that people are only about 3 questions away from tears. I just don’t know the questions to ask. So that being said being kind is a whole lot more important than you think.
I’ve learned that even though I am 37.5 weeks pregnant that it is unbelievably awesome that I can still run (very slowly) and I am truly blessed that I am still able to be this active this late in my pregnancy, despite what others may think. Also, I’ve learned to take people’s opinions in strides (I miss doing strides, we should do strides together sometime!) and not let them bother me when they aren’t always positive.
I’ve learned that sometimes life gets in the way of plans.
I have a training plan for the NYC Marathon but sometimes life (my stomach) gets in the way of that.
Feel better Ali. Hope to see you out at the races soon!
I’ve learned to always be kinder than I feel. Its easy to get worked up but always better to be patient with people around you. Good luck, hope you get better soon 🙂
I’ve learned that sometimes it is important to be selfish and put yourself and your well being first. Your sanity will thank you 🙂
I learned that you’re stronger than you think you are and loved ones will help you remember/realize that.
i’ve learned that my husband will never, ever out his plate in the dishgwasher without leaving it in the sink for a couple hours first and that if it bugs me so much i should just do it for him and save the fight for something i care about
As someone with IBS, I learned to be thankful for the good days! I know how awful it is when you have a string of bad days…thinking of you.
the lesson I learned recently is not to eat my body weight in garlic and then fly early the next morning. No one appreciated me making the entire plane smell.
I’ve learned that you are responsible for your own happiness, and that your attitude about everything… running included!… can make a WORLD of difference.
I’ve learned that I shouldn’t enter giveaways if I don’t live in the country of the blogger who does it 😉
and that perseverance will pay off…
I am injured AGAIN and I learned that you should not even try for sympathy from someone other than a runner.
Well, the most important thing that I’ve learned is that being super emotional about everything exhausts everyone around me and pushes people away. Trying to work on that right now.
And that’s awful about the healthcare system. If your doctor says you need it, they should cover it.
I’m so sorry you’re going through a rough time again Ali! Keep your head up! I’ve learned that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. This motto was taught to me by my grandmother, the queen of planning everything. When she passed away at 90 years old, she left behind a simple paper folder with all of her insurance documents and monetary documents for after she was gone. Everything was color coded and had sticky notes describing each one. On top of all of them was a stick note that said “Sorry this is all I have left. Don’t spend it all in one place.” God I loved her!
I’ve learned that knowing the difference between “to” “too” and “two” won’t always prevent you from making typos on twitter
I’ve learned to follow your dreams and stay true to your heart. The rest will follow.
Hang in there 🙂
Sending a hug your way! I keep hoping to see a post about you feeling better. Your attitude is impressive. It’s a good reminder to be thankful for our health. Is your friend selling the Ali bracelets?
I have learned to not sweat the small stuff. Focus on the positive and enjoy he little things.
I learned that you should get your wisdom teeth out the first time your gums get infected. If you wait, the WILL become impacted, and your insurance company will not cover anesthesia.
I also learned not to take my health for granted. I don’t know you, but I think you’re awesome. The fact that you can still use humor in your blog when you’re physically miserable is amazing. 🙂
I’ve learned that exercise can actually be fun and something I want to do every day!
This is going to probably sound like I’m sucking up to you, but this part:
“You don’t have to run. You don’t have to train for a fall marathon. You don’t have to get out the door for a tempo run at 5 AM.
You get to do all those things.”
is such a good reminder. You are 100% right, and honestly, lessons like this are the most important things I’ve learned. Never take anything for granted. Ever.
I have learned to stop planning every detail in my life and enjoy each day like its my last. Ali, I hope you find courage and strength to get through this! I sent my dad your post and he can relate in a different way. He was 55 and had just completed his 50th marathon in NYC. He was in the best shape of his life and had a massive stroke and was paralyzed a month after the marathon. Docs said the chance of this happening was like “winning the lottery”. Really? Worst comparison. When I get frustrated about running or working out, he reminds me that he cant do that and that I should enjoy it, no matter what! Stay strong!!!!!!
I’ve not quite nailed what TO DO in most life situations, but I have learned the opposite. Just let go. I’m sure it’s difficult being ill and saying these words, but there’s gotta be something bigger, right?
I’ve learned that making mistakes and asking (sometimes what I think are stupid) questions are part of what make you a better person. Even when I’m frustrated or stressed or feeling particularly bad about myself, I’ve found that asking for help and learning through the mistakes is ultimately way better for my sanity level than going into freak-out mode. Marie + freak-out mode = no happy people.
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I’ve learned not things so seriously… i used to get offended so easily and couldn’t take a joke. I hope the appeal for that new drug works.. insurance companies suck 🙁
I’ve learned to appreciate those in your life before it’s too late- you can never tell someone how much they mean to you enough times
I have learned there are things you cannot control (well, duh) but being someone who likes to control and plan, learning this lesson was important. As in, your first marathon may result in heat exhaustion and throwing up at mile 15 – none of which wa sin my training plan! But I finished, even when things got out of my control. Wishing you health and recovery!
I started following your blog about two months ago when I starting having a crohns flare after being healthy for 4 years! So, I’m really glad to see that you’re going to try uceris. It helped me within 2 days of starting it. My flare was not nearly as bad as yours, but I wasn’t eating/leaving the house etc. so I hope it really helps!!
I learned that while it’s great to want everyone to like you, crappy people just aren’t worth your time.
I learned that those small things your parents did for you like singing a song to make you smile stay with you.
I’ve learned that my family is the most important thing. Lots of good answers so far though!
I hope this post makes you feel a little bit loved. You may not be running but we’re all still reading and hoping and praying you feel better soon. I’m sending happy, healthy thoughts your way!
I’ve learned that stubborness and determination alone (without training) will not get you a PR.
I have learned that you cannot change someone. And, the grass usually isn’t greener on the other side.
I learned this weekend that spontaneity always turns out to be a great decision especially when it involves the beach.
I’ve learned that it’s harder but worth it to take the road less-traveled.
Also, I had my first-ever stomach issues on a run this week. (Curse you, Pop Tarts!) You are so, so strong to endure that on a daily basis, and you were my inspiration to persevere through the pain.
I’ve learned that life is short and you shouldn’t waste time doing things you enjoy just because others are doing them.
I really hope you can somehow get the new medicine, and that things pick up again, Ali. And you’re so right — I constantly try to remind myself how lucky I am to have my health and have the honor of training for a marathon. This post was a great reminder. Thank you.
Er, things you don’t enjoy. Obviously you should do things you enjoy.
If there is something you want to do or try to accomplish even if there is a huge chance that you might fail, as the great Ben Folds says, “do it anyway”. I feel like I have to keep re-learning this lesson but it leads to better and better things each time I do
I’ve learned that fear and worry are pointless, because even if what you fear/worry about never happens, you still get the short end of the deal because you lost that time you spent dreading what would never happen. It took 28 years for me to realize that, yet I still have to remind myself every day.
Shoutout to hemorrhoids.
I’ve learned that if you are honest about what you want at the start of a situation (job, relationship, etc.), the middle and the end are much, much more pleasant for all involved.
I have learned that I am so blessed in every way.
I’ve learned that being fit and healthy is better and more fun than being skinny and feeling deprived! Continuing to think healthy and hopeful thoughts for you, Ali.
I’ve recently learned that when you see a turtle that has wandered onto the road, you may want to check to see if it’s a snapping turtle before you pick it up in an attempt to save it’s life. Also…wear sunscreen friends!
And I should also learn to proofread. I do actually know when to use “its” vs. “it’s”.
It’s a cliche one but it’s true….no one can love you until you love yourself
I have learned that the game changes just when you’ve figured out all the “rules,” so be ready.
Sorry that US medical care sucks sometimes. I hope you get back to walking and running outside again. In the meantime, I think I’ll start #SweatingForAli, too. 😉
i learned to give everything (new cities, new foods, even new tv shows and books!) a fair chance. you might be pleasantly surprised that way!
Oh I want you to be better so badly 🙁 Thank you for the reminder about what’s important.
I learned that if your car is making a funny noise, GET IT CHECKED. Ignoring it never ends well.
I want so much for you to feel better and I can’t believe how long this has been going on for. Insurance companies are the worst and the cost of that injection is absurd – who IS able to get that? I feel terrible that you’re stuck. Anyway, most important lesson I’ve learned… does it count that I didn’t learn it yet but I am trying to learn it? Because it is “don’t be so hard on yourself, give yourself a break.” I mean, I learned it, I just need ti get better at practicing it. So I guess it counts! ENTER ME.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I don’t like it she has Down syndrome. My refusing to accept it won’t change a thing.
I’ve learned that moms are always right! “Should have taken that jacket last night, I knew you would be cold.” Still learning from her everyday.
I learnt that no matter what trip you play on your hubby/partner they will ALWAYS get you back!!
Sorry to hear that things are not going so great again. I hope you get sorted with you medication xx
I learned to ALWAYS use sunscreen after my mom recently died from Melanoma. Pale is the new tan!
I’ve learned that not everyone is going to like me, and that’s ok. I’ve spent way too much time in my life trying to please EVERYONE, and it just can’t be done!
Side note: I just finished reading Lionel Shriver’s novel, So Much for That. It basically rips apart the American health care system, so I’m not sure if it would make you feel vindicated or merely depressed, but I think it’s worth the read!
I learned to do what you love and f*** the rest. Thanks Little Miss Sunshine!
I’ve learned that life doesn’t care about your plans but if you can let go a little everything works out the way it should.
Hi Ali! I’ve learned that I think most people appear to have their stuff together, but that maybe adults are faking it til they make it too.
I have learned that everything happens for a reason. So take the good with the bad and role with the punched and make the best out of everything! Lately I’ve learned that there are ups and downs to running, and as I am going through a serous running struggle, it doesn’t mean I am any less of a runner because of it. Thinking about you as I read your blog posts. It makes me thankful each day that I can run, no matter how hard the run may be.
I’ve learned that even though my daughter drives me crazy sometimes that I am lucky to have a child. Unfortunately there are many people who aren’t so lucky.
You touched a nerve with that one. I’m one of the unlucky ones…But I’m lucky to have nieces and a nephew! 😀 I’ve learned that there are some diseases that science can’t cure – yet. But new things are being learned everyday and more treatments than ever for many different conditions are available.
I learned life’s too short to buy the cheap toilet paper…
Thanks to reading this post, I’ve learned that I’m not alone having suffered from hemorrhoids. TMI? Probaby. Childbirth will do horrible things to your body.
Don’t worry too much about the money, just buy the plane ticket & go. It seems better to be a little broke and have a story to show for it. 🙂
A valuable lesson I learned from my dad when dealing with people is – you have to remember that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have… helps to put things in perspective sometimes.
I’ve learned to get better at something or see results, you must CONSISTENTLY do it. Once a week doesn’t cut it… You are my inspiration for my five miles tomorrow. Hope you feel better soon!
Worrying less about what other people are thinking and doing is the easiest way to feel happier. This is, at least, the lesson I’m learning at the moment.
Wishing you health & sending you very gentle hugs!
I’ve learned that taking a day off (from school, work, activity, etc.) IS NOT the end of the world and actually is needed. Hooray for playing hooky!
I learned how to be coached very late in life. I played very few sports as a kid, and never had the opportunist to really listen and trust someone when it came to training. When I turned 32 I hired a great trainer who completely changed that, and now I can’t imagine not using a coach or trainer! I think it’s such an important thing to have – it requires you to be trusting, humble and motivated.
The most important lesson is learned is to never take life for granted. You never you what tomorrow will bring.
Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok- it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you!
OH thats a good one!
I’ve learned that life is short and you need to appreciate those you have in your life….especially your parents.
I learned never to take life for granted and to enjoy each day because you never know what will happen tomorrow. I learned it the hard way when my husband had an MRI and we learned the next day that he has brain cancer. We are lucky that he had surgery to remove some of it, but it will keep growing and ultimately take his life. So now we don’t procrastinate when we want to do something, and we enjoy each day as though we may not have tomorrow.
I have learned to not quit before the miracle….it’s there, sometimes all you need is a slight shift in perception to see it.
Happy to see a post this morning!
I’ve learned that you have to do what you love, no matter who is against you.
I did not come up with this one, but lately I find it more and more true: being kind is more important than being right.
This weekend I also learned that clumsy 30 year olds (aka me) should NOT jump off the swings at the park. Ouch!
Definitely not the MOST important, but i learned very early in life that one should take advantage of the time after a hard rain to do the weeding! It makes it SO SO much easier than when the ground is dry.
I’ve learned that my parents are insane, but they’re perfectly suited to me. Also, that sometimes “what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger” is not always true – freshwater swimming in Florida = Alligators.
I’ve learned that it’s worth the money/trouble/effort/work to take care of yourself.